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What's happened to "adultery"?
Started Oct. 14, 2009
Mixed signals?
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Should children of blended families just automatically adapt?
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Shalae, truly I'm not pushing my product, because there are many books out there that could help you. I do believe, however, that my book will give you a different perspective on intimacy with your husband. It's not just a "Bandaid" for your problem…
what if our desires are not there. meaning we're having trouble being really into it. I mean don't get me wrong we have it, but i feel like there's not emotion behind it, that's its just and act. God has really being laying on my heart that it's jus…
Preservation of the family unit is what every couple should desire. What better way to preserve it than to keep the chemistry sizzling like it was the day you married! Let's talk about maintaining your love life in marriage.
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Economic Romance is ready for order. Yep, she's launched. It's a beautiful book. An easy-read, delightfully inspiring and light-hearted handbook designed to give you a means to keep romance alive in your marriage - regardless of how long you've been…
Adultery. You seldom hear the word used any longer. That’s the word God assigned to what we have “softened” in order to make it less offensive by society’s standards. Thus, we call it infidelity, unfaithfulness, deceitfulness, disloyalty, betrayal,…
Kimmie, My heart is breaking for you now. I've been just as desperate as you are before, but I was a very young girl in an abusive home life. Being abused by people - physically, emotionally, sexually - and it was something I had no choice in. Yet,…
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More Severe Than the Swine Flu
Swine flu has everyone’s attention, however, a far threatening virus claims more victims per annum. Evidence of the Dear Flu has been around since early B.C., but has recently grown to epidemic proportion. The contagious nature of this virus has riddled our families. It is no respecter of culture, age, or status. It has been a concern to humans for some time, as there seems to be no immunity against this disease process. The potential for its transmittal has markedly increased over the last deca… Continue
Posted on September 6, 2009 at 7:34pm —
A Voice That Had No Choice
Pitino and Sypher will have a lot to answer for … beyond the voices of today. Beyond the confusion, the disappointment, the heartache, and anger that have been wrought by their indiscretion, there will be yet another voice they will hear beckoning for justice. For a “moment” – probably wasn’t much more – of sex … mere fleeting carnal pleasure, there will be a day of reckoning that will quicken their hearts more than they dreamed possible.
My heart and mind cannot escape the mayhem of the events… Continue
My heart and mind cannot escape the mayhem of the events… Continue
Posted on August 21, 2009 at 12:30am —
Prudish for Christ?
Does taking a stand for Christ make me bold or prudish? If it’s prudish, sobeit. Last I looked, God’s Word didn’t set aside the sports arena as a sacred institution. He didn’t offer to measure our standards of living by our success or lack thereof. The rules apply to all. Equally.
The pervasive mentality of the self-proclaimed egos today insists on invoking judgment on those of us who still find loyalty and integrity in the covenant relationship a noble cause. So what if stats report 60 percent… Continue
The pervasive mentality of the self-proclaimed egos today insists on invoking judgment on those of us who still find loyalty and integrity in the covenant relationship a noble cause. So what if stats report 60 percent… Continue
Posted on August 19, 2009 at 12:30am —
Budgeting Morality
Money makes the world go round. No one can deny that. Whether loaded or in poverty, it’s a necessary evil. The economic crisis of our country has placed an even greater emphasis on budgeting the family income. Compromised corporate structures, mismanaged banks, salary-slashing, busted benefits, lost jobs, inflated insurance costs … each accompany an adequate portion of stress for our future. Financial peace is going to really test many families in the coming days. It is definitely getting Americ… Continue
Posted on July 22, 2009 at 10:20pm —
A question for the male .... and the female.
What's your opinion on the woman taking a man out to dinner and picking up the tab? I'd love your reply ... and whether you believe this mentality is dictating a tenor for our society today with regard to confusing roles. Yes, we're in the 21st century - it is 2009, but to what degree are we enabling this stepping-out-of-the-box of gender roles to diminish the position of the man in our society?
So, Guys, honestly, do you feel "de-powered" when a woman "takes over" control in this area? Do you… Continue
So, Guys, honestly, do you feel "de-powered" when a woman "takes over" control in this area? Do you… Continue
Posted on July 9, 2009 at 3:46pm —
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- At 7:46pm on August 23, 2009,
Regina L. Lyons said…
- Thank you so much for even thinking of us. There were people at the conference that still remembered your talk. They really felt blessed that you came. So, even a year later, God's message is being used! Angela and I talk about you all the time. She really misses you as well. I have taken on a new job and I start tomorrow. I'm nervous but I'm just taking the Lord with me. May God continue to bless your ministry!
- At 10:02am on June 20, 2009,
Nancy Easley Kotheimer said…
- Hello Joyce, The Wedding was all we'd hoped it would be--and more! Dave Stone did a Fabulous job--always pointing them and us back to The Bible and Jesus, inserting much fun and humor along the way! Many expressed that it was the most meaningful wedding ceremony they had ever attended. The couple will be leaving early tomorrow for a week in Jamaica. We have a few gifts and well wishes, but my better judgement say that I not call them today--or any day soon--waiting until Elise calls me. My prayer now is for their first year together. The day after their return, he begins his residency in optholomogy at UofL, and will be working from 80 to 120 hrs a week for a whole year! A few days ago, Elise looked sadly at me and said, "Mom, when we get back, it's just going to be me--Jonathan will either be working, or exhausted." Do you feel I should call her then to see if she's lonely--it's just SO hard figuring out where the boundaries are! Maybe I'll call and say, "If you're lonely, I'm here for you." and leave it alone. A friend once told me, "God gives us these precious little ones and we pour out our hearts for them and become SO connected and Love them so deeply--and they grow up and Leave us! Well, I guess it's just another season of growning closer to Jesus during those Leaving times--right? Isn't it heart wrenching at times, Joyce? When you are a stay at home Mom, (we even home schooled) and you live your life for these little ones, ministering to them, and they reject you? What has been your saving grace thru that process for you? My daughters have wounded my heart, and said SUCH hurtful things to me at times--and nearly always it's when I have given unwanted advice or suggestions. I heard once that un solicited advice feels like criticism, and I do believe that's true--so "button your lip" has become my new motto.I know my husband and I need to have more fun times together--money is so short right now--know of any wonderful cheap dates? I hope you had am amazing vacation! I am looking forward to your show Monday. LOVE, Nancy K. PS I covet your prayers for their firt year of marriage, and that the Prozac or the pill do not damage her body--AND, Joyce, I can't thank you enough for your prayers for yesterday--knowing that you prayed truly blessed me. And my husband forgot hald of what he wanted to say in his toast! He mentioned nothing abt God, but was really upset w/himself that he didn't even take his note card out of his pocket! He held me close this AM though, and prayed for them and to always lean on Jesus. I believe we can share all these things later, and in God's timing.Please pray that he will continue to step up to the plate and grow at our spiritual leader and provider--andy helps in this area? He does attend Southeast we me every Sunday, and we are in a fabulous small group Bible study--we do pray together each am--he honestly admits that God is the main priority of his life.
- At 10:27am on June 19, 2009,
Nancy Easley Kotheimer said…
- Hi Joyce, I wish I could RUN out right now and buy your books--I Love You, Joyce--you have ministered to my heart more completely than you can EVER know. I hugged Elise after the rehearsal dinner last night-- a long hug (she actually let me give her a REAL hug!!!!!) and when I was ready to pull away, she wouldn't let me go...What an amazing Blessing that was for me, I cried quietly. And yes, you are right--she told me they didn't want "Mommie and Daddie" driving them to the Seelbach after the reception, and I can totally understand that--I was Quite the young independent woman at her age! My husband did share with me that he will end his toast by looking at Elise and Jonathan and asking them a favor: "Will you pray together each morning, and thank Godf for each other?" I ABSOLUTELY LOVE the suggestions you mentioned--I'm going to share those with him. Esp that "You are more important than me" and we are praying that God will strengthen your marriage daily. I covet your prayers,for tonight and I am eteranally greatful for our friendship! I am trying to copy our correspondance so I can share w/a dear friend, but somehow my computer won't do that. Where is your husband a minister? LOVE, Nancy
- At 7:26am on June 18, 2009,
Nancy Easley Kotheimer said…
- THANKS. Your advice is Spot on, and extremely helpful--I even took a page of notes! Joyce, did you have a wonderful and caring Mother? Or did you learn all this on your own? (By God's Wonderful Grace, I'm sure) I have called my daughter, Elise several times a day and simply asked what I can do to help her. (That was a stellar suggestion!) Yesterday she was very stressed, and asked me to pick up her dress and veil (it was being pressed Way out on the Outer Loop) And she Actually THANKED me in a very tiny voice (she Rarely thanks me.) They have asked our 19 yr old to take them from The Grand (reception site) to the Seelbach (where they will spend their first nite) at 11:30 or 12pm. My husband and I offered. Then they want her to pick them up the next day, take them home, and spend the nite (their second nite) in order to take them to the airport the next am for honey moon. And then, stay all week at their house to take care of the dogs the whole week. She is leaning Hard on her 19 yr old sister, and I guess We are a bit jealous, since my husband and I offered to take them these places. Alicia, the 19 yr old, has had some health issues and gets stressed out easily. I guess I will not offer to ride with her when she takes them to the Seelbach late at nite and then drives all the way to Prospect by herself, and stays by herself in their big 4 bedroom house to care for her dogs. (His parents had this house as rental property, and then gave the mortgage to Elise (b/c she was working and could pay monthly, and he is living w/his parents a few blocks over (Elise is his first girl friend, and they have remained pure--I'm overjopyed at that. He is 27, and just graduated Med school this May, and Elise is 25 yrs old) Alicia, 19 yr old, has some REAL People Pleasing Issues--having a Real hard time saying NO. Do you know of any helps for this? I guess I'll just offer to spend the nite with her if she is scared or lonely, or I'll do it, if it is really hard for her to drive each am to class at UofL by 8am I feel people take advantage of her b/c she is a people pleaser and doesn't like to say NO, although she is learning. (She has cried to me several times, saying, "I just feel so jerked around! Elise is asking me to do this and that, and I have no time for my friends!" Do I need to just button my lip? Love, Nancy K Another issue that bothers me NO END--I am a messy, sometimes dis-organized person. A Christian counselor once said I prob have Co-dependent tendancies, so the "stuff" helps to comfort me. I asked him, Why, if I like and appreciate things to be orderly and clean, do I persist in being messy and disorganized in certain areas of my life? My Mom was very controlling and critical, and I never really felt a close connection w/her. Even now, it's All about Her. She rarely wants to hear what's going on in my life--our conversations are all abt her daily doings, and Not my struggles. (She wants to hang up quick if I begin to describe my struggles!) (I feel I am the exact opposite with our girls--maybe doing too much for them???) THAT really hurts, and at times, I cry--feeling I never Really had a deeply caring Mom. Is that why I tend to "over-mother" our girls?) I am getting better abt giving them their space and that makes a HUGE difference. Hey, I just had an epiphany! Maybe I'm trying to fill the void of my mom, by being over involved w/daughters??? My husband is very hard worker, very task oriented--I have told him that more affection and talk time gives me energy to de-junk and clean--in my heart I know I need more Love--don't we all? He is constantly asking me to de-junk this or that--instead, I want Hugs! Any ideas for toasts? My daughters (matron and maid of honor) know that it's ettiquite for them to toast, but being the people pleasers they are (and they come by it naturally since both my husband and I are!) AND they HATE public speaking! Elise says she can't expect anyone to toast since she didn't at her older sister's wedding) However, her Dad may be the only one to give a toast on our side if they don't. They are asking me what I think, and I am inclined to say--don't stress yourself out--if you don't want to--don't. I certainly can understand--I hate public speaking also.
My husband will give a toast--please pray that he will include keeping Christ at the center. ( I know he wants to be funny, since my family gave long drawn out toasts at their kid's weddings. Please pray that his will honor Christ above all You have SUCH a beautiful Ministry! THANKS for letting God use you to help people in prob THE most needed area of life--Our Relationships. LOVE, and Have a Wonderful Rest of your Vacation. I Hope it is super relaxing and Beautiful.
- At 7:28pm on June 17, 2009,
Nancy Easley Kotheimer said…
- Thanks, Joyce. I hope you don't mind my asking another sticky issue involving our granddaughter and our daughters. Ellie is 2 and a half and she gets hard to handle mostly only when she has not had a nap. Our younger daughters have babysat ALOT, and the main Couple they have worked for have followed "Growing Kids God's Way" (what do you think of that?) And they have been critical of their oldest sister and her husband, mostly to me, saying No body will be able to stand being around Ellie--but saying little things to their older sister and her husband--and needless to say, it is NOT well received. I try to tell the younger girls that shey should not pass judgement--they really haven't a clue what it's like to be a parent, even tho they have babysat alot, and if they say anything negative, it will only cause strained relations. For the most part Ellie only misbehaves when she is tired or hungry. We are planning a week at the beach in July with all three girls and Ellie (2 and a half yr old) Neither husband will be able to go due to work. How do I convey to younger girls abt not being critical of Ellie or their sister's parenting? All three girls REALLY want to take our yearly week at the beach--and their fater and I are flattered that they still want to go with us, but there are ALWAYS stressful times--I want to avoid those!!! Any input? Love, Nancy K
- At 8:42am on June 17, 2009,
Nancy Easley Kotheimer said…
- Joyce, I am sitting here weeping at your utter compassion and understanding. How many daughters do you have? I've always said that God must have really wanted to grow me up (I KNOW that's true) or "do me in" by giving me three daughters!!! And I am definately experiencing both of these all at once! Your prayers are immeasurably appreciated, and your wise advice Golden. THANK YOU.
My oldest and I DO have the best relationship since she was home. Joyce, did you have alcohol at your daughter's wedding? Elise and Jonathan are older, and are paying for wine with dinner, and a champagne fountain for toasts. My husband and I Do Not drink, in fact we are repulsed by it. I had ALOT of dealing w/myself, but I hope it has not damaged our relationship. We are paying abt $15,000 of our hard earned savings and my husband just experienced a 20% commission cut, AND we are near retirement--We are Very Crazy!!! What do you think abt the alcohol issue??? It's extremely hard b/c we are considered the hosts, and alcohol is being served! Please give me your take on this. Can you come to the wedding? It is this Fri nite at Broadway Baptist church on Brownsboro Rd at 6:30PM All God's Blessings
Rein Down on You! Nancy K
- At 8:08am on June 16, 2009,
Nancy Easley Kotheimer said…
- Joyce, You are SUCH a dear to encourage and support me! I am Overwhelmed by your generosity and compassion. I told her yesterday that I am at her becon call this week and she mumbled "yeah, right..." I am glad I said it though, and I am trying to live it out W/my actions. Joyce, we work w/a biochemist, and know that there is a natural way to work with nearly every physical problem, so I have been Very dismayed that our daughter is now taking prozac and most recently the Pill (she has had terrible hormonal problems since going to college and living on soft drinks and junk food after having a Super diet at home (75% raw or lightly steamed fruits and veges, and doing regular urine and saliva testing for PH imbalances, salt, sugar and ureric acid imbalances--this biochemist is AMAZING--He is Spirit filled and has a real handle on the TRUTH abt the health of our temple of the Holy Spirit Our daughter is marrying a Godly guy who just graduated from Med school, so he believes in drugs, so she is being led this way. I Know the dangers of The Pill, and tried to explain them to her the other day, and she blurted out, "You are NOT going to run my life!!!" and ran to the other room. Thankfully, I just went into another room and sulked and Prayed, feeling very sad thet we can't discuss some sensitive matters--I Know B/C in the past I was entirely controlling. How do I get out of thie co-dependency? ALSO--one other pressing relationship issue that threatens to mar her wedding day--her older sister by 6 yrs, and mother of our only grandchild, is Very jealous of her 2 younger sister's relationship. She is Matron of honor in the wedding, and her 19 yr old sister is Maid of honor. The older one cries whenever the younger two do things together saying she feels "over the hill--matronly, and out of it. I have told her that she IS in a diff stage of life, and I have asked younder ones to include her in everything they do this week--and my youngest has asked Elise (the bride) to apologize to Brittany (the 32 yr old) but she says, "I have dione nothing wrong, and I won't apologize" My youngest and I agree that even if we are only maybe 5% responsible, for the sake of the relationship we should apologize. They are all very accomplished violinists, so maybe being an artist/musition makes them hyper-sensitive, plus just being a woman, i guess. Anyway, I am very happy that they WANT to be close. Also, our oldest has recently (2 yrs ago) moved here after being away living in Cincinnati for 10 yrs--in school at the Conservatory, and then having a job as a Professor and violin teacher at the university, and she feels like the outsider. The bride, Elise, asked her to play violin in the wedding as she walks down the aisle W/her Dad, and she cried to me that "Oh, I want to watch my sister walk down the aisle--that is SO special for me! I don't know if I was right or not, but I said, it's not about you though, Brittany--it's Her wedding day (actually we did have a friend who was going to play while she walked down the aisle, but she had something come up, so she couldn't do it) Both of her sisters are playing a beautiful duet for the unity candle, and they are thinking of a joint toast at the reception, but our oldest says she wants to feel good abt her sister, or she can't give a toast--and abt a wk ago she had a breakdown, saying she wished she could move back to Cincy, dealing w/sisters was just too hard and emotional. She also told me, "Myself included, I just wish everybody would be nice, even if we don't feel like it." I told Elise (bride) that, and she didn't comment. I think the prozac has changed her to be more hardend somehow... Can you give me any advice, insights, etc? A good friend said to me.."Just tell them to work it out with your sister..." I think we are nearing the wedding (THIS Fri nite) and for everybody's sake, I SOOOO long for Loving, sweet, supportive relationships, Joyce! I AM praying that God will work everything out to HIS glory. I Give it All to Him, but I Keep taking it all back, and my Peace is destroyed. THANK YOU for ANY insights. LOVE and His Peace be yours, Nancy K
- At 8:07am on June 14, 2009,
Regina L. Lyons said…
- Good Morning!
It's good to hear from you. I know you are busy as usual. I didn't know you had stopped seeing Angela on a regular basis. But, I know just living life brings about a change.
As usual, this is a high time for us in relation to our Women's conference again this year. It is on August 14th and 15th for banquet and workshop. Worship service is the following weekend August 23rd. We are doing things a little differently this year. There will be only one speaker, Rev. Linda Willis from Southhaven, Mississippi and the banquet will be at 1st. Virginia Avenue Baptist Church instead of Holiday Inn. This is really a nice website, Joyce. Thank you for inviting me. Talk to you soon.
- At 2:38pm on March 14, 2009,
JOHN BOSCO HARELIMANA said…
- how are friends of the children ,my name is john bosco we have ministry in kigali RWANDA ,PLEASE WE NEED FRIENDSHIP WITH OURT MINISTRY
THANK YOU FOR YOUR GOOD DECISION
- At 4:57pm on March 3, 2009,
Patty Mason, author said… - Joyce, love the photos of your grand babies! Your daughter looks just like you.
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